Sisters

I think I have finally come to a new understanding of women. I was out to dinner last night with my girlfriends and realized the biggest variable between myself and all of them....they each have a sister. I on the other have Eric, which I wouldn't trade for anything in the world, well most of the time...

This was my opportunity to share my pregnancy news with all of them so I decided to give each of the girls a wrapped up gift of feminine supplies and when they opened them, I said "I won't be needing these for the next 6 months, Surprise." I think it was a cute idea and I got the reaction I anticipated. With that said they were all very excited and then the floodgates of questions began and all the conversation was directed towards me and my baby. It was the same as when I got engaged, married, even as when I went on a "date" (which is a word I dreaded until about 31 when I got married) it was the same overwhelming feeling of my personal life being sucked from me. Instead it isn't that at all.

Until now I didn't really understand what all of it was. When it's just the nature of being a girl and wanting to share "girl moments." Eric and I obviously had a very different relationship which made my experiences different. I learned more about football than make-up and found that to be more important and interesting. I didn't see the joy in trying on dresses, EVER ( poor MOM). I didn't know there was a whole world of fake eyelashes and brow tinting (Some of the stuff I learn now comes from Toddlers and Tiaras!)  I have really been in the dark about this girl code and thought it was an invasion of personal space when in reality at certain times throughout life you are the "IT" girl and should embrace it for all its worth.

It would be really fun to share all your secrets with your sister, I think a sister is a very valuable asset. Sisters automatically have a maid of honor, someone to throw their showers, a Godmother, a best friend, they really luck out on that account...but I think there is just something really special about having a brother.

 I on the other hand have always found my comfort in boys. Even as a little girl I grew up in a neighborhood of boys and as life continued I found a new group of guys. This has always been my life, I have always been the only girl. I find it easy to communicate with my guys and I find honesty in their conversations and I feel a strong sense of trust and comfort in our relationships. It took me 30 years but my Mom finally said to me, I guess girls and guys can really just be friends.

Now in my life I am finding out about those conversation and experiences I missed out on, with the girls. A lot of them were the same as what I experienced but  I was hanging out with the guys while they were doing things to get them and impress them, so that has its own irony. Although I consider myself now after my breakthrough to be a sister in training, I think I am going to find it easier to answer questions and share more about my excitement and my experiences. This is not to say that girls with brothers don't have "sister" qualities but they may have them in their own ways like I do. Its also not to say girls without brothers aren't tomboys as well. I will always be a tomboy. I would rather watch my brother coach football on a Friday night then dress up and go to dinner, and much rather watch college football then go shopping. That may never change but having girls that really care about you can make you change! Thanks Girls for being so excited and making me feel so special! Cheers!